Death and Mourning

Yahrzeit and Burial Resources

Honoring loss & Memory

Shiva (mourning) can be a time of deep spiritual upheaval. Jewish tradition encompasses the light, the dark, and all gradations in between. Congregation Emanuel of the Hudson Valley is dedicated to honoring the contributions of our dead, the impact of their passing, and to creating an environment for all to find peace with loss. 

What is Yahrzeit?

Yahrzeit is a Yiddish word meaning anniversary of a death. It is the yearly anniversary of a loved one’s death. Jews observe yahrzeit at home by lighting a special long-burning candle in memory of the deceased. Yahrzeit candles are also known as Yizkor candles because they are also lit on behalf of loved ones on the four Jewish holidays (Yom Kippur, Shemini Atzeret, Passover, and Shavuot) that include a Yizkor, or Jewish memorial service. These candles, often packaged inside glass jars, can be purchased at Judaica stores and online here. Many supermarkets carry them as well. It is customary to light the yahrzeit candle at sundown on the Hebrew anniversary (Jewish days begin at sundown, rather than midnight). To find out the Hebrew date of your loved one’s death, use this Hebrew calendar converter.

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How is Yahrzeit honored at Congregation Emanuel?

Rabbi Romer honors yahrzeits during every Shabbat service by speaking the names of our loved ones during the season of their yahrzeit as well the names of loved ones who have passed within the year. She also welcomes all those present (members or otherwise) to submit names and be recognized by our community before joining together for the Mourner's Kaddish. If you are a member and need to submit or update the yahrzeits of your loved ones, please send the names and dates and we will enter them into your record. 

What is the traditional prayer for the dead?

Written in Aramaic, the Mourner's Kaddish is the traditional Jewish prayer for the dead. The Mourner's Kaddish is recited on a loved one’s yahrzeit (the Hebrew anniversary of their death) and at Yizkor (memorial) services. Learn more here.

How do we recite the Mourner's Kaddish?

Aramaic 

אבל: יִתְגַּדַּל וְיִתְקַדַּשׁ שְׁמֵהּ רַבָּא. [קהל: אמן]
בְּעָלְמָא דִּי בְרָא כִרְעוּתֵהּ וְיַמְלִיךְ מַלְכוּתֵהּ בְּחַיֵּיכון וּבְיומֵיכון וּבְחַיֵּי דְכָל בֵּית יִשרָאֵל בַּעֲגָלָא וּבִזְמַן קָרִיב, וְאִמְרוּ אָמֵן: [קהל: אמן]
קהל ואבל: יְהֵא שְׁמֵהּ רַבָּא מְבָרַךְ לְעָלַם וּלְעָלְמֵי עָלְמַיָּא:
אבל: יִתְבָּרַךְ וְיִשְׁתַּבַּח וְיִתְפָּאַר וְיִתְרומַם וְיִתְנַשּא וְיִתְהַדָּר וְיִתְעַלֶּה וְיִתְהַלָּל שְׁמֵהּ דְּקֻדְשָׁא. בְּרִיךְ הוּא. [קהל: בריך הוא:]
לְעֵלָּא מִן כָּל בִּרְכָתָא בעשי”ת: לְעֵלָּא לְעֵלָּא מִכָּל וְשִׁירָתָא תֻּשְׁבְּחָתָא וְנֶחֱמָתָא דַּאֲמִירָן בְּעָלְמָא. וְאִמְרוּ אָמֵן: [קהל: אמן]
יְהֵא שְׁלָמָא רַבָּא מִן שְׁמַיָּא וְחַיִּים עָלֵינוּ וְעַל כָּל יִשרָאֵל. וְאִמְרוּ אָמֵן: [קהל:אמן]
עושה שָׁלום בעשי”ת: הַשָּׁלום בִּמְרומָיו הוּא יַעֲשה שָׁלום עָלֵינוּ וְעַל כָּל יִשרָאֵל וְאִמְרוּ אָמֵן: [קהל: אמן]

Translation

Exalted and hallowed be God’s great name
in the world which God created, according to plan.
May God’s majesty be revealed in the days of our lifetime
and the life of all Israel — speedily, imminently, to which we say: Amen.

Blessed be God’s great name to all eternity.

Blessed, praised, honored, exalted, extolled, glorified, adored, and lauded
be the name of the Holy Blessed One, beyond all earthly words and songs of blessing,
praise, and comfort. To which we say: Amen.

May there be abundant peace from heaven, and life, for us and all Israel.
To which we say: Amen.

May the One who creates harmony on high, bring peace to us and to all Israel.
To which we say: Amen.

Transliteration

Yitgadal v’yitkadash sh’mei raba. B’alma di v’ra chirutei, v’yamlich malchutei, b’chayeichon uv’yomeichon uv’chayei d’chol beit Yisrael,
baagala uviz’man kariv. V’im’ru: Amen.

Y’hei sh’mei raba m’varach l’alam ul’almei almaya.

Yitbarach v’yishtabach v’yitpaar v’yitromam v’yitnasei, v’yit’hadar v’yitaleh v’yit’halal sh’mei d’Kud’sha B’rich Hu, l’eila min kol birchata v’shirata, tushb’chata v’nechemata, daamiran b’alma. V’imru: Amen.
Y’hei sh’lama raba min sh’maya, v’chayim aleinu v’al kol Yisrael. V’imru: Amen.
Oseh shalom bimromav, Hu yaaseh shalom aleinu, v’al kol Yisrael. V’imru: Amen.